I’ve lost my patience over photography discussions

My fiancé and I just got engaged in February. We have successfully found a venue and are trying to book the next biggest things : catering , photography and videography.

Photography is most important to me for obvious reasons. However, while my fiance says he understands this & that it’s one of the most costly things, in my eyes he’s making things difficult.

Our budget is about $32000. He’d love for it to be lower but I don’t see it as feasible given his taste, my taste and the city we’re in. Anyway, first …he wanted a friend to do them. He has friends who have a business…one doesnt have a working website or reviews, the other primarily photographs “vixen”models in addition to the occasional wedding. Naturally that idea was discarded.

Then, he wanted only 6hrs of photos which, in my opinion is way too little & prefer the whole day but I convinced him to 8hrs.

Then he mentions his drone (which he’s licensed) stating he can do the drone footage….ive already explained to him that as he is a main subject in the wedding (the groom) he cannot be the one flying the drone in the footage….nor will he have time.

He thinks getting photography and video under $4000 is feasible…I severely beg to differ and know we run the risk of hating our photos.

I found a photographer for $4200 who also does a la carte options. In an effort to save money, I mention that video of the ceremony is most important and given that we’d be the only ones watching it , it should suffice . The photographer only charges $500 to video the ceremony. So in total that’s $4700.

He noticed she does “super 8” film for an additional fee of $800. I say okay but that’s now $1300 video for just the ceremony. He says a video is just the ceremony is boring and he says he’ll find a videographer who will do they day for less with the super 8….i tried to inform him that no one will film the whole day for less than $1000. Let alone this extra feature …

Then he looks up where he can rent a film video camera…….which he mentions giving to a member of the wedding party to do it or himself……which……do i honestly have to explain my frustration here?

I have completely lost my patience with him. I’ve blown up and can’t understand what he’s not understanding. The one thing we don’t want to regret is photos or video. I’ve explained this and he keeps acting like it’s a DIY project …I’d rather have less elsewhere than to look back a regret my photos and video. I’m trying to compromise but each idea he says sends me into a blind rage . Please help me chill out and convey what I’m trying to say or tell me I’m being ridiculously over controlling.