Use gray rock method if you must

But only if you have literally no choice but to be in the company of the narcissist. Using the gray rock method on a regular basis caused my personality to become flat. Both of my parents are narcissists and I used to spend time with them on a fairly regular basis. I was codependent thinking if I keep showing up being loving and sweet things. Since I estranged myself from them in May 2022 it has been such a healing unwinding process. It's like I had become frozen inside a block of ice from so much gray rock behavior and now I'm thawing thank goodness. Gray rock for safety but don't lose yourself like I did. It's been a grieving process but I'm so much better now.