How do i “ train “ my cat ?

So I’ve had this cat since early September of last year , she was a decent kitten i guess , but then when she got to be like a almost teen she had gotten horrible, like at one point i gave up , i didn’t touch her look at her or anything i couldn’t do it anymore , and i was rlly looking to giving her away , it was taking a massive toll on me , but when i talked to my parent about it i got yelled at and told no . So i started trying to fix the issue . But it never worked until we got her clothes to see if it would help , the clothes kinda did but she outgrew them and we went to get more to no ones surprise the didn’t work anymore . We tried a routine but it didn’t work , we tried more playtime and that didn’t work either , we tried walks but that made everything worse , she wouldn’t sleep at night at that point so i didn’t get any sleep and she started jumping on tables and breaking thing , she also almost knocked a mirror off the wall , at the moment she isn’t sleeping at night anymore even with her calming chews , playtime , routine and attention, she won’t listen and has started climbing windows and taking my posters off my wall , jumping on tables , eating off plats , biting , scratching ( i have many scars from that ) , and over all not listening, i don’t know what to do and rlly thinking about letting her go , ik if i even bring it up i will get yelled at but i can’t take her anymore , so im looking for advice on how to calm her down or teach her not to do these things , i nothing as seemed to work , not rewarding good behavior, stays or more sleep . I rlly need help im so close to giving her away