AITA for not wanting to meet my ex’s(?) new girlfriend- UPDATE!!!

Hey guys. I’m not sure how many remember my original post considering that it was almost a year ago. To summarize (since I can’t link posts,) a guy I used to date, but stayed friends with, asked me to meet his new girlfriend despite knowing how upset and heartbroken I was over how things ended.

Anyways, several were asking for updates. At first I didn’t think that there was enough for a post, but here we are.

So I absolutely told the guy that no, I did not wish to meet his new girlfriend. Thankfully, he was very understanding of it, but told me that it was actually the girl that asked to meet me. Because he and I met on Tinder, she was very insecure about our friendship, which is completely fair! I would also be anxious about that if I were in her shoes.

I thought that was it, that this was all over and we could put it behind us, but nope. When I was updating an old coworker of mine on my life over the past few months. He’s a really great guy and has helped me out in some pretty dangerous situations, so I felt comfortable just telling him everything. When I said my ex’s name, he got a weird look on his face and started apologizing to me. I asked what was wrong, and he revealed that not only did my ex date his cousin, but he also strung her along like he did with me, and cheated on her.

Safe to say, I was horrified because I never saw him as a cheater at all, but now it makes me think of all the times he has said that he was a horrible person in the past. I haven’t contacted him since November, so I really don’t know how he’s doing these days or if he’s still with that girl. Honestly, I don’t care. I’m at a better place in life now with better people. Still chronically single, but I’m completely okay with that.

I know it probably wasn’t much of an update, but I wanted to fill you guys in. Thank you to everyone who has helped me and gave me advice in the original post!