Why do people always turn everything around on me?

Im getting tired of people who turn everything around on me i do something nice for someone they dont care about it then when i bring it up they say im guilt tripping.

I just make the point that if im putting in effort and its a one sided relationship just admit that its rude to not hear my point of view.

All people seem to say is "im perfect i cant be wrong its you who is in the wrong".

Im always told im wrong its like you think your perfect yourself go look in a mirror.

If i buy a game for someone and they dont even play it and they can only respond with "i didnt ask for it anyway" its still rude to not think about others and how people are trying to be thoughtful to you.

I talk to people for example they wont say a word to me for 3 months then the second i try to get a word in and ask whats going on they call me needy when ive already waited a long time to begin with.

You cant call yourself a friend then ignore them then when i bring it up you tell me im guilt tripping you when it obviously can hurt a relationship.

What i dont understand is people dont seem to wanna understand each other or admit when they are in the wrong or take any responsibility or accountability for how they might be making other people feel.

Another dismissive comment i always get is "your just being weak" when i bring up my dissatisfaction with certain people.

I have to listen to people who bring up drama for no reason other than to fill a void in their life and i dont wanna be other peoples therapist.

I try giving people i care about advice because they ask for it then they call it unsolicited advice and get mad at me for giving them my honest opinion because it was too personal i guess well its called having a honest conversation.

When people turn things around on me saying "i just want friends" no its the opposite i dont wanna be your friend to begin with if your gonna be like that and i want boundaries.

How many people do you call a friend yet they are a literal ghost and say absolutely nothing no texts emails or private messages yet still wanna be in your friend group while showing absolutely no interest or effort in anything or getting to know the other person?

They want the friendship without the effort it takes for it then when things get too personal they run away because they cant handle it then wonder why they are alone when they push others away.

Its just constant gas lighting to say my feelings or emotions dont matter or that im making up how i feel and that only they know how i feel or that its not valid or justified.