Why are people so hostile to Catholics in liberal cities? And why is it so hard to make other girl friends as a girl?

Hi all! I've been honestly struggling to make new friends since getting out of my shell and deciding that's something I value and wanted to pursue. I'm a woman in my early-mid 20s.

People in my liberal city (Vancouver) have honestly been so hostile (at worst) or judgemental (at best) towards me for holding the values that I do. I'm a practicing Catholic, and my life's values and outlook reflect that. I'm naturally a bit more conservative than the average person my age, but not insanely so, and that has put a lot of people off and created the situation where we just don't really "click."

I might not typically align with the lifestyle choices of people my age who live in Vancouver. I don't really have anything against LGBT or non-binary people in particular for example, but it ends up being where their lifestyle choices and values don't really line up with mine, so it's not usually worth the effort to try to make friends with them or hang out in their spaces because it's like trying to fit a square peg in a round hole. The same thing goes for girls my age who spend their weekends drinking and clubbing and engaging in a lot of casual sex - that isn't really me, so we don't share much in common and it isn't really worth engaging with them. On the other hand, I really do care about stereotypically "girly" things like dressing up and aesthetics and photography, but it's hard to find a venue where this is appreciated and also not completely degenerate at the same time.

Besides church, where can I find girls who actually match my values and are willing to make friends?

I've also tried church and made some acquaintances that I hope will blossom into great friendships, but sometimes it's still hard. I'm perhaps more creative and "outside the box" and perhaps even "wordly" for a lot of other Catholics too, so this adds a layer.

I really do want to have fun and have deep conversations with people who are willing to step out of their comfort zone a bit and be open and genuine. I feel like this is the best way to have a friendship.

Posted Apr 15, 2025, 7:40 PM UTC

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