The idea/comments that “nothing will change” with friendships after kids bothers me

(Hot take) When people justify that having kids “won’t change anything” with friendships and their current lifestyle bothers me because:

1. It shows you clearly don’t know the amount of work a newborn is.

2. You’re assuming your childfree friends will just accept your kid being around all the time and will make exceptions for your schedule/needs now even tho you made that choice on your own.

I’m sorry but I’m childfree by choice and you having a kid does not entitle you to the same level of invitations to things as when you were childfree, especially if you were the first one to have a kid in a friend group. This applies to bars/restaurants as well as vacations. I don’t want kids myself so why would I want to accommodate your kids in my free time and things I enjoy as a childfree person.

I have several people I know currently complaining about losing friends after having a kid and judging those friends for their choice to not include the new moms like they used to, but like why do you expect we will just bend to your new lifestyle? It’s okay you made your choice and we can be happy for you, but it doesn’t mean things stay exactly the same.