Turning 30 🥰 but also saying goodbye to AM for some time

From my experience traditional AM cannot work, not until you’re in the same city and I am really tired of talking to people over calls and commit to the process without even knowing who I am talking to.

Most of the people, they are great but I am not attracted to them, personality or appearance, nothing wrong but it’s just not what I want. I spent the whole last year worrying about the clock and what not.

But then my therapist said something so simple which most of us overlook for some reason, she said and I quote, marriage is alignment and not a necessity, it should happen because you want it to and there comes a time when you should ask yourself if this is the story you’d like to tell your kids or your older self.

Myself, nah. I have a good career, I am fiercely independent and I live by myself. If I let anyone into my world, it should be because they add to my life and not take away from it.

It’s scary to put things into the hands of fate but I have seen scarier marriages and relationships where people are just sticking out after episodes like cheating, abuse, and mental exhaustion.

I have had my career suffer because of a guy I met through AM. He cheated and had the audacity to come back half hearted but I could never bring myself to give him another shot. I just couldn’t forgive, it’s not stubbornness, to me it’s self respect over the idea that society has spilled, marriage by 30.

No thankyou. I’d rather marry late than marry unsafe.