i don’t like my mother in law coming over without letting me know

context: i live in ireland. i married an irish man. i have a toddler. i’m currently pregnant. my mother in law lives minutes away. and i’m not irish. sorry if my english is rudimentary.

my mother in law comes in our house whenever she wants. many times my house is messy and i look a mess. and i like my peace and not having unexpected visits. i also am introverted. i don’t want people to come to my house sometimes. i’d like to know if someonesomeone’s coming over.

i detest that she thinks she can come in just like that without telling me. but i understand family is important and she’s the mom of my husband, i live in her sons house. but now it’s my house also. its not just his house. i live here now.

i just want my in laws understand that i don’t feel we are close like that. i don’t feel like my heart welcomes them anytime. i’m not there yet. perhaps one day. but not yet. sometimes when she shows up i feel “oh man… why is she here”. i also would be more at ease of she let me know she’s coming.

my husband i don’t think he’ll see my point of view. it’s his mom. he of course is 100% ok when she just comes in.

do i say something or do i suffer in silence?