Please help I don’t know what’s real

So I’ve suffered from hocd (homosexual ocd) twice and pocd once when my niece was born. I’ve recently got into a relationship and now it feels like I have the urge of to leave my boyfriend for a woman or that I suddenly feelings for friends I’ve knew for years and I never thought anything before! It’s like this urge I need to or when we’re out in public I want to be with this woman or flirt and it’s stressing me out. I feel like the only way I can ‘figure it out’ is if we split up but I don’t want too but I feel like I have too. I was single for 4 years and only date and had feelings for men in between that time. This is also my first healthy relationship so I don’t know :(