29f Is honesty that hard? Why play the hot and cold game?

Met this guy on a matrimonial app. The attraction was instant for me at least. We ended up meeting a few times, and honestly, it felt like we’d known each other forever. We laughed like crazy, talked about life, even joked about our future honeymoon plans and all. It was fun, effortless… like two old friends reconnecting.

I told him I liked him no pressure and that he could be honest if he wasn’t into it. He joked, “Stop manifesting this A few days later… he ghosted. No explanation.

I’d given him a clear out, yet he vanished. Then came the weird blocking/unblocking cycle. I didn’t chase, but it messed with my head.

Now twist in the story ,Some goons were troubling my friend in MP. She has recently shifted there, so my friend asked for his number since he has political connections in that area. I didn’t think much about it, hoping it would help her,

So, my friend probably talked to him, and this guy messaged me saying that he got a call from my friend. I told him if he could help, he should, since he has political connections. He assured me that yes, he would help. I thought that was the end of it, but he also asked about me. So, I talked to him normally and even reminded him to call my friend. He didn’t call her and forgot. I reminded him again, and he forgot again. So, in anger, I told him, “Never mind, she’ll handle it herself.” For a week, there was no communication

Then out of nowhere, he started liking my WhatsApp photos, acting normal again. We talked, even planned to meet—he seemed excited—but the plan didn’t work out. I followed up, and he said, “I’ll let you know.” It’s been a week but Nothing.

He’s politically connected, works a hybrid job, so yeah—busy. He is genuinely busy; I’ve figured this out by his social media . He keeps traveling between Bangalore and MP every week. The day our meeting was fixed, just two days later, he was in Delhi for some political work.

genuinely liked him. Maybe still do. I just wanted clarity. I wanted to meet him because he hasn’t left my mind. I felt that meeting him would clear everything up.

Why play this hot and cold game? Why not just be real? Why do people choose confusion over honesty?

TL;DR: Met a guy on a matrimony app—great connection, he ghosted. Reconnected again showed interest again, then again silence . No clarity, just hot and cold.