My (24F) boyfriend’s (28M) boredom is impacting me

We have been together for a bit more than 3 years. The first 2 were very good. We did a lot of things together like travelling, concerts, going outs, but ever since moving in together my boyfriend’s boredom is driving me insane.

So the pattern repeats - he finds something, usually a game for a month or two to play, it is fine, then the weekends turn into silent hell. When he has something, it is fine. He is talkative, makes jokes, but when not absolutely silent. The work days are also ok. His mood is drastically different after job. He actually wants to talk and is not moody nor silent.

When he takes holidays, this is hell for me. I cannot stand him then. Same with weekends, especially long ones. Only gym days are alright.

I tried many times to suggest things from films, books, games, meet ups to concerts to holiday destinations. On his side he hasn’t suggested anything in at least a year. I feel a bit scammed as before he was. We traveled because of his suggestions. Anyway, when I suggest something, rarely he agrees and if so those going outs turn into arguing just before how he does not want to go. I am exhausted at this point. He is absolutely not interested in what I speak about. Whenever I try to speak about my interests I am met with „aha” and „can you say it in 1 minute or less”?

My life is not great. I have been stuck unemployed for long months. I do not have friends „at the place”, but a few internet ones. We also have a Discord server where we play games with friends. The shift in the tone is crazy when he is on call vs with me. Ages ago we had a friend group IRL, but it fell apart. He is constantly reminiscent of that yet when I suggested a meet up, like we met those people back then, he refused.

I am honestly running out of ideas what to do. Therapy is out of the question as he would refuse it anyway like many times. His mood really impacts me even if he says it is nothing and I am not responsible for his boredom, cannot fix it, so why I get angry.