Mother’s Day…

I need to vent 😫

I have been with my husband now for about a decade. His parents have ALWAYS treated me like shit. Ever since the moment they found out we were dating. Some semi recent examples just so you can get a taste of how nasty they are: I gave birth at the beginning of last year and on Thanksgiving when I went to get more food when I was 5 months pregnant, my MIL gave me a look for getting seconds and asked rudely how much weight I gained. A couple months later, she was invited to my baby shower (I didn’t like it but tried to throw an olive branch yet again and yet again I was proven why I shouldnt bother ). She said out loud she was surprised I won a game at it because I’m not that smart. My FIL is not much better. He encourages my MIL and is just as evil. That’s not even 1% of what they’ve done and said to me.

Anyway, my FIL told my husband he wants him to spend the Mothers Day (the day itself) with my MIL. I think my MIL asked my FIL to bring it up to my husband. I told my husband that isn’t fair to me. Why should she get the full day with him or even split it with me when she hasn’t actively parented in a decade and I’m in the trenches with a 1 year old???? I DESERVE to relax. I DESERVE to be treated. Luckily, my husband said he agreed with me and shut it down.

I am by no means saying he shouldn’t do anything for her. I ENCOURAGED him to get her a card and a gift and see her sometime immediately before, but why when she’s had over two decades of being celebrated must I share that day with her- especially when we have the history we do and her even treating me like shit when I was carrying her son’s child? Maybe it’s just how I was raised, but my mother wants me to spend the day for myself as I am the active parent, and when my daughter has kids I would rather her spend the day itself relaxing and focused on herself than on me. I could see her another day.

I’m glad my husband agreed with me, but I’m still mad at my in laws for trying to force me to share that day or give up the day, and I’m tired of every moment that should be something for me being ruined.