So Tired of this "Picky Eaters are evil" bs

I'm so tired of seeing everywhere all of these sentiments that picky eaters are selfish and childish and intentionally make things harder for people.

No, Debra, I am not intentionally making you feel bad by not eating your food, I am just terrified of eating it.

If I try to force myself to eat something that triggers me, I get nauseous and have a panic attack, but sure, it's just "mind over matter" and I need to "get over myself and start being an adult"

I hate people acting like it's a choice. It's not. It's deeply linked to so many different parts of my childhood and life.

It's also just humiliating. To sit there and be on the verge of tears because the restaurant someone picked isn't a safe option for me, and there's nothing I can eat on the menu. To receive a dish that has ingredients they didn't list on the menu, and to have to sit there picking them out.

Why on earth would I choose that?