42 M4F #Wisconsin OA WANTED - Maybe go to IRL if things go well? I do travel and need reasons.

Feel free to give me one.

42, I live in northern Wisconsin. I’m a software specialist by day and I work from home, guitar player, gardener, Dad, Step Dad, Cat dad, dog dad, motorcycle rider, homesteader, baseball fan, handyman, and mechanic by night and weekend. I stand 6’0 tall and weigh 190 lbs, I have longer blonde hair and I am tattoed. I’m quite active with the homestead and I play softball/baseball during the summer in town. Politically I lean left of center, and therefore i tend to stand out in this particular geographic region. I am non religious, and I also don’t smoke or drink, or do any hard drugs. I used to, but I’ve been clean and sober for 6 years with the exception of the random THC to help with sleep and anxiety.

What’s missing in my life… I’m kind of a cake eater I guess. My wife and I have a relatively good relationship and overall I’m happy at home, however, there are some critical things I am missing. My wife doesn’t touch or see me on the level that I feel like a wife should. Her hands are made of stone, and I miss the velvet and tender touch. My wife is lacking all things passion, she doesn’t get excited or upset about anything, and that might be good for me in ways, but I miss having deeper and more intimate conversations. She doesn’t see things on a deeper level, she sees everything as it is on the surface and we frequently get lost. She listens to respond, she doesn’t listen to understand. She has no passion, no drive, nothing burns her. But she’s great with the bills and the kids and whatnot. We just… Aren’t physical, and we don’t travel. We just…. Exist. Breathe some life into my existence! Make me burn, and burn for me.

I’m really open to connection. What that looks like or what my expectations are, doesn’t really matter or isn’t important. Because what does matter is just truly connecting and being attracted first and foremost. I travel a LOT, and often times solo, for work and to visit family, so getting away isn’t hard. Coordinating things wouldn’t be a challenge and, with the right person, I’d make reasonable sacrifices so long as there’s…. Connection! All of that said, I hope this catches your eye. Tell me the best thing that’s happened to you in 2025 so far.