Closure message!

I went on a first date two days ago. I knew straight away I was not really into the guy but continued the date to the end. There was nothing wrong with him - he seemed like a lovely guy but not really my type and the conversation felt a bit eh.

When the date ended, I messaged to thank him for the date and he told me he hoped we could meet again. Ultimately, I knew I had to send a rejection.

This is hard! I am a people pleaser so rejecting people directly doesn't come easy. But I bit the bullet and went for it, telling him he seems like a great person but I think it was best to part ways here. I did not want to waste his time.

He was super respectful and thanked me for being so direct :)

In the end it was a wholesome exchange.

On the other hand the other guy i dated - this same week just stopped answering messages.

I think with this experience I just wanted to highlight that it is hard to send a rejection letter - it does take some emotional toll. But when you do not get that kind of closure and they just ghost you - it says nothing about you and everything about them. If they cannot grapple with the mild discomfort of a direct exchange then maybe they aren't ready for a fully open and honest relationship regardless.

Dating is a struggle and I don't necessarily fault someone for ghosting after one date. But I do think someone with integrity and empathy would not do something like that.

Stay strong out there guys!

(This is coming from someone that has been ghosted after two long-term relationships lol)