Is it fair to not want a close relationship with my parents after I move out?

(Parents edition) For context I’m 20m my parents have always done things but the book, they always made sure they paid all the bills. Had food on the table, and put clothes on my back. I’ve always been appreciative of what they’ve done for me growing up. But about two years ago I started to notice a difference. My parents became alot more distant. (My dad has never really tried to have a relationship with me for my whole life) he never asks me how my day was, never included me in anything really. My dad didn’t even sign my birthday card last year because he was “busy” in the yard. And it’s not that I expect them to go above and beyond for me. But a little support would go a long way. Not financially just emotionally. Really any time me and my dad have a conversation it always ends up with him yelling at me about not doing something right or indirectly insulting me. Both of my parents talk to me in a condescending way. I’ve struggled to hold a job for the last 2 years because of my depression and anxiety. Finally last week I got a full time job and I’m loving it. I tried to tell my parents how happy I was with my job and how I really liked my coworkers. I expressed my excitement about moving out thinking my parents would be proud of me. Dad then says “good luck moving out making 17$” that fucking crushed me. Everything I’ve been through. All the work I’ve had to do to even be in a position to work full time and that’s what I get. No support from anyone.

But when it comes to my sisters he’s always involved. It just doesn’t make sense to me. What did i do to deserve this treatment? When my sisters fiance comes over they talk for hours. But when I come home from work my dad tears into saying I’m lazy because I didn’t pick up my room before I had to go to work. I love my parents very much. But I’m not going to force a relationship they clearly don’t want. They don’t have to prioritize me and my needs. But they won’t even do the bare minimum from me.

So I’m really starting to consider when I move out to stop trying to talk to them. Why waste more energy on people that only let me live here because we share the same last name.