me F21 and my boyfriend M21 have issues and i don’t know how to talk to him anymore

so me (F21) and my boyfriend (M21) have been together for more than a year. recently i don’t have much sex drive, not as much as when we started dating and i don’t know if it’s normal. It’s not like i don’t find him attractive or anything, I still think he is the most handsome guy in my life. lately i kinda force myself to have sex because when i tell him no, he then ignores me and he makes me fell so bad. we did talk about this issue and he told me that he doesn’t do it on purpose, it’s just a reflex and a way to cool off. even tho i told him that i don’t like when he does this, he’s still doing it. i don’t know what to do or think. I feel like sex is a part of our relationships, surely, but it’s not fundamental, while i feel like he really needs it and sometimes it makes me uncomfortable. also sometimes i just want to cuddle or kiss him but he always tries to take it to the next level. i’m afraid that the only thing that keeps us together is sex, a part of me knows that’s not true, but i’m still terrified that it is. i feel like we are moving in circles because every time we talk about this stuff he feels bad because he made me feel bad and I’m already sad so the conversation ends every time with me consoling him and sometimes I feel like it’s not right. he has this victim complex that sometimes i can’t tolerate, because even if he is not doing it on purpose i still feel like he is trying to manipulate me and i can’t stand this. but i don’t want to take it out on him.

I don’t know how to talk to him anymore and it scares me so much because i feel like I’ll lose him if i start to keep things to myself. (i’m sorry if i made any mistakes, english is not my first language)