Why Am I So Angry When My Husband Drinks?

As per the title, I’m having some internal conflict here. To begin, my husband 21M and I 20F have been together for a few years now. We got married in August of 2024 and soon after he was whisked away by the Army for bootcamp. To begin frank, bootcamp was VERY tough on the both of us. In the end, we grew closer together than ever and I was SO happy to have my husband back after nearly 7 long months.

Now onto the issue at hand- Since he’s been home, he’s insisted on drinking nearly every night. Which part of me understands, but the other part is almost…. resentful of? We recently found out that he leaves for a 10 month deployment in just over a month. If I’m also drinking, I don’t mind him being drunk. However, whenever I’m sober, I find myself becoming extremely agitated with him.

It’s almost like his personality changes. While he’s usually very sweet, when he’s drunk I feel like I’m babysitting him. He’s constantly asking for things- like me getting him another drink, snacks, water, ect. And most of the time he completely trashes the entire room he’s in. Lately, I’ve found myself picking fights with him while he’s drunk out of irritation.

I just feel like I can’t even spend any real time with him because he wants to drink so much. I know, we’re young and it’s perfectly okay to want to have a good time. But now, I find myself sitting in the living room while he’s (still drinking) and is on the game with some friends. I know bootcamp wasn’t a pleasant experience but how do I even start to bring this up to him without him feeling attacked? Am I just being sensitive here?? PLEASE give me some advice here, thank you in advance!!!