Possible for girls to like guys with different anatomy?

Yet another trashy question. But. I just don’t want this anatomy. I don’t know about the rest. I don’t know if I want a guy or a girl, but I think I’m most romantically attracted to women, so that’s my safe fallback.

In some ways voice training on me feels disingenuous. I don’t know what to make of that. I’m not young and cute in my early thirties. My age group feels less … open? But I feel like some part of me needs an escape hatch, some degree of safety. But every time I see that I know I don’t want it. It gets in the way of everything. But there’s home and work and I present M there. But also that’s a one way trip.

I just need to know it’s possible, amongst the elder millenial population. I know I shouldn’t need that, but I feel like I do. I feel like I’m well past dating anyone with traditional wants but this is something else entirely. Arguably, not being particularly invested in using it is a sign, but I know I want a person again, and inaction is easier than action. Help?