I noticed that a lot of narcissists go to insult is “quit crying” when you’re actually not crying at all and you’re expressing true anger

That’s always there little defense mechanism to further manipulate the narrative so they don’t have to be held accountable for their problematic behavior/ disrespect.

Like say a narcissist is being problematic in a certain situation or they’re being disrespectful/insulting or their bullying someone. If you simply stand up for yourself, even if you do so in a way, that’s not overly emotional… you can stand up for yourself in a calm, rational, and respectful way, and hold them accountable for their behavior… and they’ll still get even more disrespectful and response. They’ll be like “stop crying, you’re so sensitive grow some balls and man up” when you’re actually not crying at all, you’re simply standing up for yourself!

Or if you express genuine anger towards them when they did something morally messed up and they put you through something horrible, or they severely disrespected you for no good reason and you stand up for yourself, expressing anger towards them… They always say that you’re “crying” when you’re not…

Because narcissist are the type of people that think it’s “cool” to be angry… Kinda like 5-8 year olds when they first kinda start to understand emotions… You know how when you were 5-8 years old that obviously your understanding of emotions and mental health wasn’t overly spectacular or anything… but around those ages is when you start to understand emotions a little better. Sure your understanding of it is still a little bland…. But that’s around the age when you start to know what being mad or sad means.

It’s also when you develop small portions of pride….. obviously pride is more severe with older people, but around those ages (5-8) is when you start to have a slight understanding of emotions and you started to develop pride. Don’t get me wrong kids that age don’t even know what the word pride means… but mentally and emotionally they start to have slight portions of pride. Again, it doesn’t compare to when they’re in middle school or high school but still.

So typically children in the early years of elementary school often enjoy feeling angry… because it gives him that sense of control. Obviously they don’t wanna be known as sad because kids think crying makes you weak… And some kids may think happy makes you weak (I’m not saying all kids are like that. I’m just using this as an analogy.)… a lot of children like being mad because they think it’s cool.

That’s the mentality of an adult narcissist… a narcissist can literally be in their 40s or 50s and they can still be in that stage where they like being mad because they think it’s “cool”…

So that’s probably why their to insult is always “oh quit crying” even though you’re not crying at all…. They think they’re so unique and fabulous and they think everybody thinks like them or at least everybody wants to think like them so if they think it’s cool to be angry… They assume everybody thinks that.

So they don’t wanna make you feel like you’re “cool” even though when we get angry… We’re not angry because we think it’s “cool” when we get angry it’s because we were wrong and we have genuine emotions. But a narcissist prefers to be the one who’s angry so they can have full control. When you get angry at them… They can’t stand the idea of you having control. So they try to dismiss it as you “crying” to not only avoid taking any accountability for their actions… But also further confuse you and gain control of the situation!