What to do.....

.....when she (43F) does not apologize or take responsibility for her luteal actions/hatred/vitriol? Nor does she ever show gratitude for anything I (46M) do around the house. (I do all of mine and her laundry, do all the dishes, take out the trash, sweep the floors, clean the toilets, wash the sheets, make breakfast and lunch for the kids at the ass-crack of dawn while she's still asleep. And I give the best motherf-ing back rubs, foot rubs, and head rubs on the planet.)

It's always about her, even during non-luteal phases. It's always about how me and the kids (18F, 15M) don't support her when she's spewing the vilest things at us.

Does this sound like a narc?

As others have posted, she drives the dagger of my deepest insecurities into my heart and twists and twists and twists.

I know in my brain that it is the PMDD talking and not my sweet wife. But she is taking it out on the kids now. I can't stop it, and it is breaking me.

And don't get me started on the deadbedroom. Maybe once a month, if that. And it's usually the lackluster starfish treatment.

Sorry, lots to unpack. I need to get to therapy myself....