Do you have any tips for dealing with feeling touch-starved?

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Most nights, between going to bed and falling asleep, I had what i called the "Man, it sucks being single "-phase, aftering discovering i was demisexual, a few months ago, i realized it's actually then "Man, it sucks to not have someone to cuddle/be physically intimate/close with"-phase.

It's nothing terrible but it certainly isn't fun. So I've been trying to find solutions to reduce those negative sensations / hollowness.

The most effective solution would be to find someone to cuddle with, and I'm trying my best to work on that, but it's not really something short-term lol.
What i found that works for me is putting my hand around the base on the neck and then applying very light pressure, feels like leaning on someone's shoulder (or maybe i just like bondage), it eases the "touch-hunger" a little.
I also sleep "hugging" the pillow, but I don't think it does too much for me (or maybe I'm just used to it as i did it for all my life).

I've seen people suggesting wheighted blankets, those could be nice but it's starting to get pretty hot, so i think I'd just die under there.

Do you have any other things I could try to feel a little less touch-starved when it its?

Posted May 7, 2025, 2:30 PM UTC

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