Daughter Driving Me Insane (Update 5)

Sorry this wont be as long of an update or have too many intimate details but I really do think this situation with my daughter is about to reach a point of no return. As you'll see below I am right now in a split headspace. If any mothers or daughters have any feedback I am hoping talking about this will prepare me for what happens next this weekend.

I was not too concerned with this upcoming weekend but after last week that has changed.. So this weekend we have known for a while that our daughters were double booked. One daughter has a softball tournament and our other daughter (the one I have been posting about) has a dance competition out of town. My wife and I had known for a while that we were going to need to split up with our girls to make sure they had support at each of those. It was decided a few weeks ago that I would take my daughter to her dance competition out of town. I didn't think that was going to be a big deal when I thought things had simmered down, but after what happened the weekend before last I knew we were going to be in a situation where things could... escalate between my daughter and me. So last night after picking up my daughter from dance and having her trapped with me in a 30 minute car ride heading home I decided I needed to know where she was at and what her expectations were. I asked her if she has enjoyed the last couple things we have done together. I was excited that she seemed pretty confident in telling me that she did enjoy it. I asked her if its something she wants to keep doing when she is in the mood and she said that she did. Just this made me ecstatic that she was confident enough to be truthful with me about it and tell me that she has enjoyed the things we have done together. That gave me enough confidence to approach the topic of this coming weekend going out of town. I asked her if that is something she wants to do this weekend, and again she confidently told me that she did. I told her I did too and I loved that she enjoyed doing that stuff with me. I then asked her if she wants to go further than what we have done. She asked me to explain what I meant, so I just pushed through it. I said I am asking her if she wants me to do more than just touching, fingering and playing with her. She thought about this for a second before she responded that she did but she wasn't sure what that would be like. I told her that I could do things to her in other ways too like with my mouth and we could include some toys in playing together. She seemed open to this. I finally broached the question that was burning on my mind and asked her if sex something she wants from me. That question really made her think. She was quiet for long enough that I thought that I maybe spooked her into clamming up. After long enough that I though she was just done talking to me she responded and said that she did want sex. I was nervous at this point and told her that there was absolutely no requirement that we had to or that that was something we had to do. I didn't want her to think I was forcing the idea of sex on her. She spent more time thinking about it but more quickly responded to me that she is ready for sex. I asked her if she is ready for sex with me or if she wants to with someone else. Surprisingly she said that she would be ready with sex with me or someone else. I am not sure who else she was referring to but I was too caught up on the fact that my daughter let me know she was ready for sex with me that I didn't even dive into that other part of her answer. I told her that if sex is something she is ready for then its something I want to give her. I told her it was ok to be nervous and she should be honest if she ever feels like she is not ready for sex even after she has said to me that she is. I asked her if its something that she wants to tell me she is ready for or if she wants me to initiate. She responded (in a way that proves she is still nervous) that she wants me to initiate things with her. My response to her was that I would as long as she promised to tell me if she if she gets scared or nervous or feels like she actually is not ready. I told her even if its something we have started she can tell me how she feels. She agreed and promised.

And that is where we are at right now. I have a weekend coming up where I will be alone with my daughter in a hotel for 2 nights and she has admitted to me that she wants to do more with me sexually. That has put me in a strange place honestly emotionally. A big part of me is really excited and feel really confident in going into this weekend. More confident than I have ever felt during this process in the past. The other part of me feels extremely guilty. Not for anything that I am giving my daughter but just with my wife. For some reason sex feels like something on a different level than what has happened until now and just feels more like cheating on my wife than how I have felt before. I just wish she was open to something like this. I would give anything for my wife and me both to be involved with my daughter but it's never going to happen with her. Although I fully expect to move forward with my daughter this weekend I am dealing with my guilt on the other side. I appreciate any feedback anyone has for me. I am hoping that I can work through my emotions enough that I can make this weekend about my daughter and giving her what she deserves.