Is it normal to fight this aggressively with someone?

For additional context: there have been several moments where he seems jealous of my platonic relationships with other guys telling them not to be as “touchy” as they are with me. He even told me to block one of our mutual friends for flirting too violently. He has called me darling, honey and dear all at least once. He sends me his writing, raw, unfinished to read and comment on. He sometimes narrates his days with pictures of what he’s cooking and ahh this is totally normal friendship stuff but I have feelings for him and he’s supposed to be into someone else but he doesn’t have the opportunity to pull her this close and he’s tugging me in.

Okay so I don’t even know how to title this but here goes. I (15F) have this really close friend (15M) and our friendship is weirdly intense. Like people around us have pointed out that we fight in this… intimately aggressive way. It’s not physical or anything, just the kind of arguments that feel like they matter way too much. I don’t argue like this with anyone else, and he doesn’t either. With other people (at least I think, cause he’s usually upset at men), he just goes cold and avoidant when he’s upset. But with me? He talks. Properly. Like angry paragraphs, logic, emotions, everything. And it wasn’t always like that.

When we first started becoming friends—maybe like 2-3 months in—I genuinely thought he was only talking to me because I was helping him with a girl he liked. I thought he found me annoying. But then his birthday came up, and I got him something. I didn’t hear him say thank you, and it sent me into a full-on spiral thinking he didn’t care about me at all. We ended up in this weirdly irrelevant argument that day—not even an emotional one, more like a logical debate-turned-fight. And I just… didn’t go to school the next day. I couldn’t face him.

But THEN. My brilliant idea was to give my phone to my friend, and she went off on him using my account—like full-on yelling and berating him. I didn’t realize how badly that would hit him until later. He was furious. Not because of the words, but because I let someone else in. Gave them his info. Let them speak for me. Broke trust. I thought it might actually end our friendship.

But it didn’t. We fought, we really fought, and then somehow we came out stronger. Now we argue all the time—like over boundaries, over how we talk, over things like blocking. Yeah, that became a pattern too. He blocked me a few times in the past month, but still kept talking to me through other platforms. Like, he’d block me on one app and message me in a group chat or another platform. So I was never totally cut off, just… made aware that he was pissed.

Once, during one of those blocks, I gave my Instagram to another friend (not my best friend—he explicitly told me never to do that). I figured since he’d blocked me, it wouldn’t matter. I thought I’d just take the account back when he unblocked me. But he found out, and lost it again. Not just over the fact that I gave the account, but because I didn’t revoke access fast enough. So we went into another two-day full-blown Discord war—jumping across platforms, trying to “negotiate terms.”

And I mean literal clauses. Paragraphs of proof, timelines of “when I could have told you,” “why I didn’t,” “what I should’ve done.” It’s like we’re both scared of losing this thing we have, so we fight in this weirdly structured chaos. And it’s not always angry. There are little gold nugget lines buried in the fights. Like the first one—he told me, “I write for you sometimes. I push myself to write on days I don’t want to because I don’t want to disappoint you. If you think you’re disposable to me, you’re wrong.”

And I just. Yeah. What is this? Do not get me started on the calls and the headpats and the ahaha, “yknow my parents thought we were dating” [a couple months ago] AND THE PICTURES HE SENDS ME OF HIS HAIR. I will combust.

TL;DR: Me (15F) and this guy (15M) have intense, almost relationship-like fights full of drama, blocking, and weirdly deep moments. No idea what we are anymore.