Cliques within Clubs?

Is this typical not just for soccer but all sports clubs?

My 8 year old daughter is coming to the end of her 2nd year in a local Club setting (academy last year, club team this year). While she’s had fun, we definitely feel like outsiders on her team from her and some of her teammates (which she feels left out at times) to a core parent group that really shuts us out and is a borderline clique…this started last year and continues to get worse..

She does have a couple on the team she’s warned up to (not really close with either but will buddy up during practice/after games) but they are both talking of leaving to another club 30 minutes away (which isn’t an option for us). She is an indecisive 8 year old and after talking with her last night, she is going to go through tryouts and see how it plays out but don’t really want to have to deal with this for another year. She loves soccer and has fun with her team over the last two years, but she’s made comments how she feels left out. She usually makes connections easily but doesn’t have a lot of close friends outside of neighborhood kids and a core group of school friends.

Options on the table:

  • Go through tryouts but probably not sign back with the same Club unless the two she’s closets with stay or if someone new comes through tryouts that she can buddy up with.

  • Not go through tryouts at all and just let her play with school friends

  • Stop stressing out/overthinking this and let it all play out

Again, she’s 8 so I’m just trying to put her in the best position moving forward.

Posted May 7, 2025, 2:32 PM UTC

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