Confusing NYPD arrest

Using a throwaway account bc im still in the dark about what happened with my case. Location: NYC

An extended family member assaulted me and someone called the cops (I believe there might have been multiple calls, one coming from the family member who assaulted me.) I ended up getting arrested and they told me a few hours later that it was because my extended family members shirt had been torn off and he said I did it. I might have, but not intentionally because I don’t even remember it fully. I was transferred to a second precinct at 8am and refused medical treatment for a sprained ankle because they told me I was going to see the judge at 12pm/1pm and I didn’t want to delay it by being transferred to the hospital. They decided to transport me separately to the courthouse due to my ankle (had to walk down long flights of stairs and didn’t want to risk me taking down all the other shackled prisoners.) I was put into another cell at the courthouse and was told my lawyer would come to see me and I’d be brought in front of the judge. I believe it was around 11am at that point. I was in that cell until 5:30pm. At 4:00pm they told my family waiting in the gallery that I had been released at 3pm , but my mom was on the pay phone with me when she got the text I was released and confirmed with them that I was still in a cell. At 5:30pm two people showed up at the cell and told me the charges were dropped and I was brought out the back garage of the courthouse w/ instructions on how to get to the front of the building. 10 minutes later I got to the lobby w/ my bad ankle and asked the officer if he knew how I could find my family, or if he had a phone I could call them to come meet me. He gestured me down a line to a desk of more officers who told me they didn’t have any way for me to contact my family and told me they hadn’t released me. We might have sounded heated because the original officer came over and tried to say he didn’t tell me they could help me, just that I could go into the court to get my family. But I didn’t know where they were in general.

My family came out in the moment , and that incident didn’t continue, however the family member who assaulted me was released directly after that and we crossed paths (without incident thankfully) outside. When I collected my belongings I asked if they knew what my charges were and they didn’t know. I never spoke to a lawyer or a judge. And then someone contacted my sister this morning and told her I was charged with domestic mischief but they dropped it and gave me a number to contact a family court attorney. I don’t want him to go to jail, maybe just AA and anger management or something. We aren’t going to be living together much longer anyway , and this incident has just quickened that process. I want my arrest to be sealed or taken off my record.

I’m just looking for general advice on this situation, if it seems normal. My mom keeps telling me she thinks something is off, but I think she just got scared because they said they released me when she knew they didn’t. I also don’t understand why they released me the way they did? My family was waiting for me in the gallery, I never got to see a judge to find out what my charges were and that they were dropped. They gave me directions to the lobby and none of the people in there could help me? The person who assaulted me got directly released to another family member who was there? And if all of that was done correctly, what was I supposed to do to avoid this arrest? He was intoxicated and attacking me, I was sober and defending myself. I have NEVER been arrested and he has a record of domestic violence and assault charges.

Thank you in advance.