26F 33M What’s realistic expectations with needing help moving?

My main question is how much help would you expect when moving if you’re not moving in with your partner. I recently got my own place but decided not to move in with my partner due to a couple reasons on both ends. We’ve been together about 2 and a half years at this point but the help with getting everything set up has been lack luster but I also feel like it isn’t his responsibility to help even though it would be nice. My friends who helped move and did some basic new apartment cleaning with me disagree which I get it but I told them I can’t make him do anything and there’s no point in starting a argument about it since it’s not his apartment. I just want some perspective on this please and thank you.