I (25 F) cannot feel 100% emotionally consistent with a guy until he shows stability.

I sometimes have been in denial over these fact, but I guess I realised finally that I open up emotionally and mentally the most only with guys who meets my certain requirements for long term. Now the controversy is, do you think these requirement’s are gold diggerish?

1. Has to have a proper degree/education of a stable field.
2. Should have a history of holding a stable job/ or has potential to switch job easily and not sit too ideal.
3. Needs be earning at least a bit better than me, or has rapid potential to earn better in future.
4. Should not be stingy and be a provider and treat be at basics ( travelling like needs to have a car or bike, paying for dates/food no 50-50 )

Listen, I am not asking for anything that I do not earn, or can do the same to my partner. I have all the above 4 and can be a provider financially as well and I will do it on my free will or at time of necessity. So I guess it’s fair only. Now definitely, emotional and mental connections matter to me but I am not very picky in that department.

Now my dating history however has been sad, because I was never able to come in terms that I do needs this things financial stability in a guy to even want to be with him, because I felt gold diggerish about it. So I brushed it off, I dated/relationship close 3-4 men, and all had some form of financial instability. Either one guy was in college with no finance from his parents, or another was a freelancer who barely could pay rent, or another had big dreams but basic education/degree made him struggle getting jobs, another was earning decent only but was a freelancer with past history of being broke a lot and not as such stability in future.

Listen I tried my best, but all of them pointed out promptly that I am emotionally unavailable and I guess I realise now after finally dating a guy meets all the checkboxes as to how free, open and happy I am when treated the way I want to be treated. And I think I tried to not be so picky and give men the past men chances cause I empathised with there struggles, but I think thats just pity not actual bond. I have been born and bought up in a highly educated/ always stable incomed family and my father never compromised at all specially in travel and food and health.

Do you think this makes me a gold digger?