AIO Am I wrong for pulling away too Is this a normal rough patch

AIO hello f28 this may be a long post but recently I have been feeling lonely and unloved in my relationship with m38 of 6 years we have 3 kids and I’m not sure if this is a normal rough patch. I let him know last month that I was feeling off…. He wasn’t holding my hand as much or cuddling at night and all the little things he used to do just stopped or became a nuisance like if I fell asleep at night without charging my phone he would plug it up and joke about it later or he would always want to take a shower with me but now he says things like nah the water is draining fast enough that would be gross or other examples but lately something doesn’t feel right and when I bring it up he tells me why are you making me feel like this nothing has changed… after that I have pulled back from the relationship a little to observe but he will only ask why are you so quiet I’m not just quiet I stopped answering his late night work phone calls I’ve been more into cleaning and I don’t beg to shower together or cuddle or have s*x anymore I have started to focus on myself and the kids and he seems fine with it is this normal in a relationship we are never like this and no he is not cheating to my knowledge we both can go through the others phone and neither of us have locks I just want to know if it’s normal aita for pulling back too