Am I being unreasonable? Baby shower edition

Some background:

I do not have a great relationship with my family. I’m closest to my siblings. My husband and I got married when I was 21 (29 now) and my mom took over the whole wedding. It was nothing like I wanted, but she paid for it all.

Fast forward to now, I want to have a co-ed shower in my current city. It is 4 hours away from my hometown where my family lives. The people around me daily have been the most supportive. My family—not so much. Especially cousins I never talk to. My mom and I have had a very very rocky relationship since I was a child.

My mom wants to throw me a shower in my hometown and says no one will come to my shower 4 hours away. I know it will turn into something like my wedding and just be upsetting to me. I also want to have my coworkers and friends there and know they won’t drive to my hometown, nor do I want to have to travel myself being so pregnant at the time.

Am I unreasonable for not caring if my family doesn’t want to drive to my current city for MY baby shower? I know my sister and siblings will probably come and drive but I don’t care about my cousins.

I could have two, but again I don’t feel like I should have to travel for my own shower to appease others.

Let me know your thoughts.