He demands that I answer all his questions about how I feel and what I want, but weaponizes my replies EVERY SINGLE TIME

I dont know how to get past this point. He blew up at me in a major way abt 2 weeks ago with threats against me and my family and anyone I might cheat on him with. Now he wants to fix it. Admitting he said some really messed up things. And asking me what I think, what I want to do, what I want etc. I'm always so passive, just letting him use me how he wants. He has joked about me just forgetting everything he says and does the next day after an 'argument', because I don't hold him accountable. Idk what to do. I feel railroaded at every conversation. Almost every single thing I say makes him at the very least unhappy unless I say what he wants to hear. I just don't like him as a person anymore and I don't know how to tell him that. Everything we do for work is linked together and I don't feel in control of my own assets, even though so much is in my name, debts included. I dont think I can tell him what I really think and feel. It's like the nice version of him feels fake now and I feel kind of bad for not wanting to just be happy he's being nice and wanting to fix the damage. But the let down I always get when he shifts to being angry has been so much to deal with. And I'm kind of over it now, but I don't think I can communicate that with him without him trying to show me all the things he's done for me and our son, the accomplishments that trump any verbal barrage of abuse. But idk how I can move forward, without being massively dishonest and pretending to be something I'm not.

Tl:dr my narc hb threatened me and I don't want to keep the same cycle going forever. How can I break out? I don't like him as a person anymore.