Help me reddit, Idk what to do
Can someone help me, I rlly don't know what to do in this situation with my friend (female). I'll call her V and her friend L, lemme explain the whole situation. So I met her in 9th and we became friends in 10th, by the end of 10th grade, during our examinations V started distancing herself from L, and I could see the distress in L. So I adviced L to find a separate friend group separate from V to be able to hang out with others and here's the part I fucked up, I badmouthed V to make a point and bullshitted about her to L. Then I asked her to talk to V about the whole situation. Later they had a call and determined I was attempting to destroy their friendship, which probably could be thought of if delivered incorrectly, the bitch L didnt mention my intentions properly instead shared screenshots of me talking shit. Then V dmd me calling me a snake and then blocked me. AND HERES THE PART THAT PISSED ME OFF THE MOST, L BLOCKED ME BECAUSE APPARANTLY I WAS MAKING HER UNCOMFORTABLE, THE REASON? Because of an inside joke where I call her mommy.. ok it may sound bad, but I do it in the funniest, not sexual non flirty way possible so I pretty much understood her from tht point, I personally never had tht much of a connection to L anyway so yeah. But V is very important to me, she genuinely listened to me, talked freely and had genuine convos with me so I don't want to lose her. I got them to unblock me by apologizing but although L didnt change much V was very cold to me, dry texts, seenzoning and shit like tht which I understand, she lost trust in me so I am giving her time but this L bitch, every time I vent a bit asking her what to do to make V warm up to me, she starts blasting at me. After a few cycles of this I blocked her, not because of her outrages, but because she used this drama to go and bitch to another friend, called E who she hated and talked shit to me about. So that was so fucking pathetic and disgusting I instantly cut her off from my mind but.. the thing is V and L are so close tht L clouds V's judgement. V doesent realise how big of a problem L is, her previous boyfriend wouldn't get back with her after a issue because of L, when V and boyfriend were dating , L was like an annoying ass 3rd wheel who interfered Many times so yeah. Anyway, V said she would eventually warm up to me but no progress has been made, it has been about 7 weeks since the snake accusations and 5 weeks after talking started again. Currently, she is continuing to be Hella dry. I really want her to warm up to me, she might be thinking I like her, but I don't, genuinely, as a friend she is very valuable to me. I don't know what to do, should I stop texting her? I rlly don't know. Since were in different schools, talking irl isn't an option.. so I'm very down, can someone give me some advice, I really need some, I'm constantly down and I really want to get back to being friends with her.... Reddit please help, and sorry for my wording, this is really not my type of thing...
Posted May 11, 2025, 4:49 PM UTC