I don’t know what to do

hello. i am new to this group. i need advice.

husband (30) and myself (31) have been married for almost 9 years. we have two toddler daughters together. i am a sahm, he is a self employed blue collar worker. i am really struggling in our marriage. i’m not happy, he doesn’t appreciate anything i do for him, our home, our kids, etc. with today being mothers day, i’m not going to lie…i expected some sort of recognition. i didnt get shit….. not a hi, happy mothers day, i just feel 100% shit on. he got up and left for work, only acknowledging our girls. i want to say so bad that he’s a good dad and that’s why i’m here but….he’s not. Our older girl can’t stand him. He doesn’t change diapers, help with middle of the night wake ups (literally has never once been up with either kid), helps none around the house. the only thing i can say he is doing for us is working and providing for us. i have a nice vehicle, and can pretty much do as i please. now he gets pissed if i’m blowing a lot of money, I don’t on myself. just the girls. but he’ll still bitch every now and again on my spending. Not to mention, our financial situation isn’t great. we have an ass load of debt. a lot thanks to his job. the hard part is, I know if i leave him, i’m going to have to get a job and i won’t be home with my babies and typing that feels like my heart is being ripped out of my chest. these girls are my world. i know i’m not being the best mom atm because dealing with him just pisses me off most the time…. Like i feel that he brings out the worst in me. we both grew up in families that feel divorce isn’t an option. so i know there will be backlash. i think my parents will show leniency but his family will not be happy. (another thing, i love his family..his parents, siblings, even extended family. love them all) my heart also breaks thinking of my girls growing up in a broken home…. i am unsure if it’s better to suck it up and deal with him so they can have one home. or do i leave and teach them not to put up with this type of treatment. i am so lost and numb. this has gone on for so long…. i shouldn’t of married him and deep deep down i have always known that. by the time i realized it, i had spent $$$$ on a wedding so i just went through with it. there are so many details but i will spare all of you. has anyone been through something similar. please send advice if you have 😓