Respectfully, before I crash out, what actually is the counter play.

Bit of background I have played dead by daylight as a survivor main for a real long time, I started about when Huntress came out and play on and off since then for years. How do you actually counter play this killer he frustrates me to no end. It feels like even okay knight players can stick a guy on you at the right place and be in an instant win scenario. I know you can technically touch the flag but I'm not sure when to tell you can do that? And some of the summons ignore pallets, and some are faster than survivors. Explain please before I uninstall 🙏