Providing reasons for things you want to do is dumb

So, last night, I was hanging out with my in-laws and my wife after helping them move. And I really just wanted to go home. I was tired as hell. Everybody was.

But I'm also socially awkward af and will just endure things until I'm allowed to go. My wife on the other hand...well...it's her parents. She's comfortable and would love to stay for as long as possible. But even she had to realize that we need to go home eventually, and she did.

Being socially akward, I like to listen how people justify things. Also being socially akward, I'm a huge fan of the Irish goodbye, as it's called. Wanting to leave is enough for me, and I don't really see any reason to justify that to anyone else.

Still though, I like to pay attention to how other people navigate social situations like excusing themselves.

Personally, I would've told my parents in-law that I want to go home, take a shower, and make sure our cat is okay. While that's all true and genuine, again, I really just wanted to leave.

But my wife said, "Well, you guys need to make your bed and go to sleep", her reason being their welfare. And then her dad agreed with, "...and take a shower." It worked and we left shortly thereafter.

While I have new rhetorical tactic that I wouldn't have thought of before, why did we need to provide a reason at all? It's obvious that everybody was freakin' exhausted.

And today they came over to drop something off and my mother-in-law got mad about an espresso machine we purchased. This thing has nothing to do with them at all. Before they came over my wife said, "...you get to tell my mom why we have an espresso machine."

And I just have to wonder, "...why can't it be enough that I simply wanted one?"