I finally know how it feels

As a former people pleaser, I often heard advice like be yourself, or attract don’t chase. I never realized what that meant till now - you mean I don’t have to cater to other people’s feelings all the time?? After years of therapy and practice I am proud to say I think I finally know what they mean. Not to say this was easy at all but I personally found that I had to love and respect myself first and foremost. I studied and practiced my values until I could determine who thought similarly, cared as deeply, and prioritized personal growth like me. I was no longer afraid of what people thought of me during conversations and events; I focused on finding out who THEY really are. Then I get to decide if they are someone who is worth being friends with. I know I have a lot to offer at this point and I want to share my life with people who can enrich it. Now I noticed people are actively seeking me out - some people I’m excited to get to know deeper and others I don’t see a good fit with. Some are good as superficial friends for a fun time. Others are like family and deserve more investment. They largely accept me and my imperfections and so do I. Who would’ve thought?