Only one way for me

So I've tried with toys, maybe not enough, but they have never quite gotten me there. Here's what works for me:

Typically when my wife and I are having sex one of two things will happen, I'll either cum with her on about her second or I get her to four and wear her out. If that happens then she's simply too loose to continue. She's dead to the world at that point any way.

So usually when that happens I'll lay back and just start jerking it. My fucking hot wife will start with some ball support and then go in with the finger. She usually starts with thrusting but then she hits the spot and BAM I see stars.

It's usually backed by some good cuckquean talk like "I can't wait to watch you fuck another woman. I love putting you inside another girl." Stuff like that.

The thing is, I can't get there by myself. I'm not too worried as scenario two happens at least every other week - so I'm a happy man. But it would be fun if I could find a way to get there by myself.

Or do I? I'm lucky to have a woman with the exact right touch. Why me with what's working?