Is this more 2 or something else?

Wanting to leave a relationship because you don't feel like your needs are being met or your dissatisfied with the other person, but you don't feel like you're allowed to without a good excuse.

This turns into constantly looking for reasons why the other person isn't meeting your standards, but instead of framing it as "you're not meeting my expectations" or explicitly stating why they are dissatisfied, they frame it as "do you have a problem with me?" in hopes that the other person will express their discontentment as well and give them an excuse to leave the relationship.

They don't want to take ownership of their negative feelings, so they try to pressure other people to be negative in order to vindicate their own feelings.