Update: AITAH for getting upset my MIL keeps asking for my daughter?

Just a quick update. I took everything you all said to heart and I tried to look at this situation as thankful that my mil and daughter have a great relationship. She went last weekend on Friday and came back in time for our Memorial Day fish fry. She told me about her friend there having a bday party next weekend and of course I was all for her being there for that and told mil that next weekend would be fine.

This past week she’s had many dance classes to prep for dance recital this weekend. I work in the medical field so my hours during the week can be crazy but I spent most my time with her this week sitting in the car waiting for her after work. Her recital was amazing last night! Mil attended. We grabbed dinner after and she was of course our little star! Then after dinner she asked my daughter “so you coming home with me right?”. I was floored because she had her last weekend and I’ve approved her for next weekend. I think I may have blew it though because I immediately said no, we have plans tomorrow (I’m doing a crab leg broil for the family and she loves crab legs). But I did say it with a little more vitriol than it may have deserved so I may have went too hard because my kiddo was immediately like oh we was joking mom, which made me feel once again like that bad guy.

You guys, I know I should be happy that she has a friend at gmas and that she loves to be there but I have to say again, I work all week and just feel horrible that mil keeps trying to get her so often. The weekends are all I really have with her. I feel like such an AH though because even my kiddo seemed like she was trying to save the situation from getting rough and she shouldn’t have to do that. Am I still the AH and need to work harder on this situation or am I right that mil is going too far?