Looking for new friendship, getting to know you and hanging out prior to experiencing my first time ...

TL;DR: Looking for married man who is DDF and wants friendship first, followed by sexual experimentation down the road.

FULL STORY:

I'm not entirely sure where to start with this request or if there are others out there looking for something similar to what I am about to propose. I have recently come to terms with the fact that I am bicurious, but I have never been with a man...had a few opportunities but foolishly passed. I am looking for somebody that is in a similar situation to me.

I am a married male in my early 40's. My wife is not supportive of me exploring my gay desires (I've proposed a MMF threesome, cuckolding, etc ... it's a no go). Furthermore, in this day and age, she pretty much knows or can see where I am at all times if she chooses. We have children, so it's very unlikely that I could host. We share bank accounts, so also unlikely that I could sneak off to a hotel, etc. Not super into car play but once the STI status is established, we may have to take advantage of what we can.

Most importantly, there is NO way that I can be caught trying to play...wife has threatened to leave me and I don't doubt that she would consider making good on that threat. So I have to make sure I don't get caught and don't come home with an STI. We are both clean - I was tested when I started considering this and had nothing. She is monogamous and loyal and my only partner. I will be very adamant that before I do anything with somebody that there is trust and proof of my safety (with regards to STI status).

This will not appear to the most of the people on this sub and I understand that. If it isn't something that interests you, feel free to pass. I am simply not looking for a hookup or quick fuck. Definitely looking for friendship and playing the long game.

I am hoping to find a married man that shares interests with me ... my hope is that we can hang out and become friends. To the point where my wife (and yours, if applicable) are not suspicious if we are hanging out. From there, we can become sexual. I have no experience but open to almost anything. Not a big fan of rimming, no interest in piss, shit or blood play. But beyond that, I want to experience everything your cock and mine can provide to each other.

Prior to playing, I would require an STI test to assure that you are clean (sorry, I will need to play that safe and will not make exceptions). At that point, I would also be seeking that we are exclusive to each other, other than your pre-existing partner determined to be clean.

A little about me - I am bigger, 6'0" 240. Cock is around 6 inches cut. I am hairy. I do not smoke, but I do drink casually. I am active - I love sports and I watch and referee sports. I like outdoor activities and PC gaming.

You - prefer smaller than me (weight-wise), please be 30-45 and share interests. Must be a nonsmoker. Please feel free to DM pictures of your body and what you have to offer down below and I can return the favor. In your first message, please confirm that you understand what I'm looking for and what interests you have.

If you have any suggestions of a place where I am more likely to find my FWB, let me know. I've lurked in the sub for a while and love the group. Thanks for reading and if you are looking for something similar, I look forward to hearing from you.