[M4F] Psychology of Kinks and Fantasies

I am looking for a conversation about our kinks and what drives us crazy about them. We all have yearned for those conversations that makes us want to share the rather niche kinks with another stranger, and here is another one today! A few darker kinks I enjoy are non/dubcon, orgasm control and denial, degradation, deflowering, TPE, breeding, impact play, age gap, watersports, etc.

Whenever I read a darker themed RP post here it makes me wonder what attracts to such intense, and taboo topics, because while we may not want it IRL, there is a part of us that craves those. I find the idea of being in a position of power and control to be incredibly gratifying and a huge turn on. It has less to do with the exact kinks but how the kinks allow you to exert control. Do you have such fantasies or kinks that makes you feel blissful, but also perhaps a little ashamed?

So what are some of these niche or dark themed kinks that you love to explore, but would be super embarrassed if a friend found out? What is the origin story of your kink? Have you ever ended up confessing to someone, and realized you loved it so much more? What are those kinks that you are not sure about, but feel curious enough to want to explore?

As you can tell from this post by now, I am more into the psychology of kinks and fantasies than the roleplaying itself. The brain is the sexiest organ after all and I want to know how your brain works.

So let's explore our interests in a safe-space converastions and see what we can learn about each other, and about ourselves. I am looking for an ongoing conversation partner ideally, so I strongly prefer Reddit Chat and/or Discord. But I am also open to short-term chats. Please say more than just hello and let me know what caught your attention about this post.