If Rachel Dolezal isn't black, then I'm not a woman

Part of my struggle of my journey as a trans woman was that I thought I had no right to be a woman. I wanted to be one for so long, but I was raised as a cis straight man, and got all the privilege that comes along with that. I don't have any notable genetics that would indicate I'm meant to be a woman but had some kind of biological misconfiguration. I figured that it would be a slap in the face to women everywhere for me to suddenly declare myself to be one of them, because I didn't have to go through any of the shit they did through their lives. I also figured that I didn't deserve it, because I would have the luxury of being able fall back to presenting as masculine and regaining that privilege, which isn't an option for women. It wasn't until an older cis woman told me "you've always been a woman, you were just raised in a way that forced you to be a man" that it gave me the courage to identify as a woman.

Rachel Dolezal feels more comfortable presenting as black and being around black people, despite the fact that she can wash of the makeup and change her hair at any time to look white again.

I really don't understand the difference between her and me, so I don't know why people hated on her so much, and frankly I'm resentful of that hate because it made it that much more difficult for me to embrace being trans.