'Tude Talk Tuesday for June 3, 2025

Hello, fellow Sobernauts!

Welcome to 'Tude Talk Tuesday, where you're invited to share what changes you've noticed in your attitudes and perspectives since you've gotten sober.

I once heard someone say "It helps me to be the person I want to be" and that resonated with me.

As my drinking progressed, I slid further and further from the kind of person I wanted to be. I became isolated, full of guilt and shame, and slowly shirked an ever growing number of responsibilities, all while lying and sneaking around in order to drink more and more.

In sobriety, I felt I had a fleeting opportunity to start making myself back into the kind of person I wanted to be, the kind of person I hoped I'd become before I got derailed with alcohol.

It was (and still is) hard work for me to make the necessary changes in my life to put myself on a path to continual (although sometimes glacial) progress. I have a lot of self-esteem and perfectionism issues I'm working on, but I think a major motivator of my sobriety is that this is the closest I've ever been to being the kind of person I've wanted to be and I see it as a direct result of getting and staying sober. Being sober allows me to be a better me and being a better me helps me stay sober.

So how about you? How are you doing being the person you want to be?