Good communication vs leading the dynamic

My husband and I have had kinky sex for a decade, but we are only just starting to label things and enter a D/s relationship that includes some foray outside the bedroom too. Since we know each other so well, and are good non-kink partners in many ways, our communication is great.

My question maybe stems from this long history, and this nexus of history, of good communication, and of expanding this dynamic. I’m sharing a lot of what I like and what I want to do, and while my husband is a very active and willing participant, I was the one who asked for it. He wants me to share (in fact, it was one of our first rules), but now I wonder if I’m sharing so much that I’m actually… leading the dynamic? Has anyone else experienced this and any ideas on how to navigate that line between sharing and overstepping?

It’s so fun that after so many years of marriage, we are still discovering new things about ourselves and each other too.