AITA for not giving my friend a second chance?

AITA for not giving my friend a second chance. I am a 30 year old female and was close friends with a woman I grew up with. We live in the same town and our families know each other. During our 20s we spent all our time together and were in constant communication. We would call each other best friends. Several years ago, she stopped responding to me. I was a little disappointed but never felt upset with her as I attributed this change to us growing apart as friends, so I let it go. Several months later I was going through some bad depression and reached out to her and told her i needed a friend to talk to, but she never responded. I was a little hurt but again, decided to give her space. One year later I got a call from her telling me to meet her for lunch right that second. I told her I was out of town and she very aggressively told me that she needed to see me. I apologised and we scheduled some time for us to hang out soon. She only had one free day coming up so I cancelled plans I already had made because I wanted to see her. The morning of the day, I called to confirm but she completely ghosted me and I never heard back. I was left very confused but decided to shrug this off. 6 months later she contacted me and said that she is struggling and really needed me as a friend. I explained that I would love that but also explained I was slightly upset by the fact she never contacts me back and was also upset that she expected me to be there for her difficult time, yet she didnt really do the same for me. She was very defensive and told me that she cannot be the kind of friend that stays in contact with people all the time. I completely respected this and said that’s fine. She told me that she really wanted to prove to me how much she valued my friendship and would reach out in the next week to schedule to meet up. I never heard back. By this point I had decided to give up any hope of us maintaining a friendship and moved on with my life as normal. Meanwhile, this friend starts spending time with my family. It was a bit weird, knowing she had time for them but not me, however I completely respected this and let it go. FASTFORWARD 18 MONTHS and she reaches back out and says "We should hang out more." I was very confused. This friend has made me for the first time in my life feel like a needy friend, which is the last thing I thought I was. I responded that I do not want to see her as I don't feel she has treated me fairly as a friend. I saidI will always love her and be there if she needs anything, but wasn't interested in meeting for lunch any time soon, as I was still a little confused and upset. She told me she was confused and thought we were very close. Was I in the wrong for not agreeing to meet again? Am I overreacting? AS OF RIGHT NOW: We have not seen each-other for 4 years despite living 5 minutes away. She still spends time with my family very often and we have not spoken since.