Why do you need to be validated for “checking out” of dating?

I’ve noticed that a lot of incels seem to need their grievances validated by “normies” when they tell people they’re giving up on looking for a relationship. This can be seen in previous posts on this sub. My question to blackpillers is, why can’t you just quit trying to find a woman if it is completely over for you? Why not just stop caring at all and do whatever you want with your life if trying to get a woman is totally impossible? I understand that this is tough, depending on what ethnicity you’re apart of, but you can strive to de-pedastalise womens preferences and relationships.