AIO for telling my MIL that my baby shower is “not her wedding do-over”?

I’m 32 weeks pregnant and planning a baby shower with my husband and best friend. It’s low-key, just a brunch with some games.

My MIL, however, has taken this as an opportunity to live out her Pinterest dreams. She’s insisting on custom floral installations, a harpist (??), a “gender reveal moment” even though we’re not doing that, and matching gowns for her and me.

The final straw was when she sent out a digital invite to some of her church friends without asking me, and referred to the event as “A celebration hosted by Grandma [Her Name], welcoming her baby boy!”

I confronted her and said, “This isn’t your event. It’s not a second wedding. It’s about the baby, not your fantasy.” She burst into tears and told me I was “robbing her of the joy of being a grandmother.”

Now my husband’s family is saying I was cruel and “should let her have her moment.” I’m just trying to keep things stress-free, but apparently that makes me the villain.

AIO for snapping about it?