Does anyone barely know their in laws at all?

Not sure if right sub but it does have to do with blended families idk

For example, with my first in laws I ended up living with them until shortly after their son’s(my kids dad) passing. We got very close. Like I could literally drive to their house and let myself in if I wanted to, sleep there, look around for food etc. They were a big family so I have many BILs and SILs around my age and school age kids, so it was always fun most of the time!

With my husband rn, we’re about to be on our 2nd ‘ours’ baby, and tbh I don’t even know if his mom knows that I’m pregnant and due in a month. They live in another state, and we’ve only had the funds to visit once when we were early in our dating. She visited once early last year I think. And well, I just don’t really know them. They’re sweet, amazing people. She made some amazing food. And that’s about all I know. I’ll never have a relationship with his sister/brothers as I did with my first in laws and it’s just sad.

My husband as well, it seems he’s very close and fond of his other father in law and sees him as a second dad because he was there for A LOT that BM would put him through.

The SKs barely see either of mom’s parents (also divorced & remarried) since they no longer are on speaking terms. Every other month the grandpa might stop by, and every 3ish months the grandma might ask for them for the night or to take them to the movies. Since my husbands parents live out of state they don’t see them, and on the very rare occasional FaceTime calls, it’s not easy due to a language barrier. And the kids seem to shy or too in their own world to actually try to communicate with them.

I feel like me being his second wife and him being my first official marriage I think everyone just kinda burnt out from in laws and all that. His other father in law has been very respectful with me though and invites us to get togethers on holidays. And for some reason I just don’t trust BMs mom. She offered to take my bio to the kids outing but it just didn’t feel right to me.

But does anyone else have a situation like this? I guess to many im “lucky” because in laws can be quite a nightmare, but I guess I was just hoping for the same family vibe as I did from my BDs family. 🤷🏻‍♀️