Me (28F) and my ex (30M) were in an on-and-off relationship for a little over a year.

I'm a black woman who took a chance and dated outside of my race.We had different political views but my mistake was thinking that I could change someone, or at least love them enough that they would come to understand where I was coming from.Throughout the relationship, we had many moments that were sweet and loving.He was my first in all ways that counted.But whenever I brought up anything related to politics, gender equality, or race-especially as I am a woman of color, I didn't know how he would respond.Sometimes, it seemed as if he understand, other times, he became cruel if I pushed it or if he felt like I was pushing my "agenda."

Once, when I said I believed men and women should be equal in a relationship, after an argument when I felt like he wasn't listening to what I had to say, he snapped: “F*** that, don’t talk back, I’m so fing tired of your mouth—you are not my equal.” More recently, after a disagreement about politics***,*** he told me “your weird a f****ing politics is psycho,”** and said “screw you,” “IDGAF,” “have a good life, " and, "go marry Don Lemon."

Even after all of that, I still tried to bring closure with kindness. I sent him a message to end things peacefully, and he read it but didn’t respond. Later, he texted, “It’s all good, it’s what you wanted the whole time anyway,” like I hadn’t been the one fighting for us over and over again.

I don’t know if he misses me or if he feels any remorse. I just know I gave my whole heart to someone who used my love against me and who would never see me in my totality.

How do I move on from something that broke me?